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A Chat with Dr Grant about Mental Health for New Dads

 Mental health for new dads Mental health is an important topic of discussion whether it’s for women, men or children, and here at KIDDO we love that the lines of conversation around mental health are being opened and the stigma is lessening. We talk to Dr Grant Blashki, Lead Clinical Adviser for Beyond Blue about mental health for new dads. Bio Dr Grant Blashki is a practicing GP, the Lead Clinical Advisor for Beyond Blue, and has published numerous books and research papers about mental health. He is an active commentator in media and has given hundreds of public presentations. As the father of three grown-up children, he is committed to helping new dads traverse that exciting, and sometimes daunting, transition to fatherhood. What are the main challenges that face the “modern father” in society today? The very notion of being a father has evolved and morphed in recent decades, mostly for good. In my clinic, I see so many young fathers who are engaged with their children on a daily basis. In times past, this was rare, however these changes in roles have also brought their own pressures. For instance, social media is a relatively new phenomenon that can increase the pressure to be the perfect parent, which often paints a false representation of what parents should experience day to day. Some dads are feeling the pressure from society to still fill the traditional role of ‘the bread winner’ as well as being a hands-on father and struggling to juggle both roles. My impression is also that for many young men who are about to be fathers, there is a sense of “how can I be a father? I haven’t really got myself worked out yet.” How has the evolution of a father’s role changed the pressures on fathers these days? It’s great that dads are becoming more and more hands-on in raising their kids, we’re gradually seeing traditional gender roles for parenting soften and this stands to benefit everyone. There’s still some way to go in these changing roles being more accepted in society, but we’re moving in the right direction. Some dads today feel the stress of trying to ‘have it all’, balancing their career ambitions and being an involved parent at the same time. Which is why it’s great to see workplaces becoming more supportive than in the past with parental leave arrangements, relieving some of the pressure on mums and dads. Fathers are more hands on than ever before. Has this had a positive or negative impact on their mental health? Being involved and engaged with the raising of their children is an overwhelmingly positive thing for fathers. It promotes strong emotional connections with their child and it can really boost the dad’s sense of purpose. What are the main reasons that men will struggle when becoming a new father? Because men don’t experience all the physical changes of pregnancy and giving birth, they may not begin to feel like a dad until after the baby is born. Becoming a dad is a big change. Some main ways men can struggle include the pressure to be a ‘good parent’, relationship stress with their partner, worrying they won’t love their new baby and difficulty getting enough sleep. These adjustments come with stress which, when it builds up, can put your mental health at risk. In fact, depression affects one in 10 dads between the first trimester and the year after the baby’s birth. Anxiety conditions affect one in six dads during the pregnancy and one in five in the postnatal period. However, awareness about men’s experience of PNDA is low, with 45 per cent of fathers not aware that men can have postnatal depression and 43 per cent of first-time fathers see anxiety and depression after having a baby as a sign of weakness. What are some recommendations to get help if someone is struggling with their mental health? Talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling. Your GP is a great place to start, they can help find the right support for you. For soon-to-be dads, it may be helpful for you to take some time to think about how you’ve reacted to the news and talk it through with your partner. What are you worried about? What are you excited about? The main message is, talk about how you’re feeling, don’t just dwell on it by yourself. Mental health professionals are available 24/7 at the Beyond Blue Support Service on 1300 22 4636. Web chat is also available 3pm until midnight AEST at beyondblue.org.au/getsupport The Beyond Blue website has resources for new dads including Dadvice, and some excellent videos from the fathers discussing how they manage some of the challenges. Tips for keeping well as a new dad – Talk to your partner about how you’re both feeling – Reach out to other dads/parent groups – Beyond Blue forums might be useful – If you need help, see your GP and maybe undertake a GP Mental Health Plan – Try not to forget the small stuff – drink enough water and eat well If you or someone you know is struggling with feelings of depression and loneliness reach out beyondblue.org.au Or read our article about a Modern Day Dad’s Group in Adelaide

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Lighthouse Youth Projects: striving to give every child the chance to be amazing

Co-founders of Lighthouse Youth Projects, Jamie Moore and Ryan Lloyd share a longstanding love of BMX and cycling, borne of a lifetime spent riding trails, tackling jumps, performing tricks and forming lasting friendships through a love of bikes. With a wealth of industry experience behind them and a passion for living life to the fullest, these two dads harnessed their mutual love of riding and the benefits and life skills it can bring, and created Lighthouse Youth Projects. The registered charity, volunteer supported, not-for profit organisation was founded with the vision to inspire disadvantaged young people, supporting them into positive pathways through bicycle-based mentoring and life skills programs. We chat with Jamie about the inspiration behind Lighthouse, and how they’re helping disadvantaged young people in our state and beyond. Tell us about Lighthouse Youth Projects. What inspired you to start a not-for-profit directed at helping young people? Ryan and I set up Lighthouse Youth Projects with the vision to give every child in Australia, regardless of their disadvantage, the opportunity to ride a bike with someone passionate enough to care, willing to see their potential and to encourage them to make a change for the better. I met Ryan, who is one of Australia’s best freestyle riders, while I was running a bike distribution business. We started riding together, with Ryan in a sponsored role and myself as an advocate. In 2013, Ryan broke his back overshooting a BMX jump and around the same time, my business failed. For both of us, these life changing events prompted us to really work out what mattered most. Both having a wealth of experience riding bikes, we wanted to share that with people; we wanted to create something that would enable us to pass on this love of riding and its many benefits, to the next generation of young people, particularly those with a background of disadvantage. As soon as we started working in the juvenile justice system, I truly realised that so many young lives are wasted and if someone doesn’t step in and try to help, then everybody loses, not just the child. Can you tell us what positive benefits bike riding has, and how your work helps disadvantaged kids? We believe that bicycles can change lives and be a springboard to a new, positive way of living. Riding is something that most people seem to enjoy, and a lot of people probably take the physical ability to actually ride a bike for granted. It’s not uncommon for the kids we work with to have never ridden before, or to have never had someone in their lives who was willing or able to teach them to ride a bike. Riding is the most efficient way a human can move across the earth under their own power so it’s a very effective metaphor to show positive change and encourage good habits too. Can you tell us about the programs Lighthouse offers? We are lead contractors in two federally funded programs, Cycle of Change and RIDE, which have successfully targeted youth unemployment by way of bicycle-based mentoring. These programs run every day of the week in both South Australia and Tasmania. We also run an ongoing ‘Behind Bars’ program, working with young people who have become involved with the juvenile justice system. This involves school holiday mentoring and programs to help the residents adapt better once they are on the outside, with an aim to help these kids in accessing opportunities to participate productively in the community. We also facilitate Concrete Sessions at Oaklands skate park every fortnight. These are open to the general public, bikes and helmets are available to borrow free of charge, and we welcome people to come down, have a warm meal and hang out in a stress-free environment. Can you share some success stories about kids you’ve worked with? Seeing a young man called Ben from Munno Para finally start to ride on his own after persevering and trying so hard but with limited success, was simply amazing; the look on his face is something I will never forget. Another story that springs to mind is a young person we worked with, Dale, who came to us in Cycle of Change with no idea whatsoever about “what to do with his life”. After working and riding with him for a year, he graduated the Cycle of Change program and started an apprenticeship with Aldom Motor Body Builders. He always texts me the photos of what he is working on, and this type of connection is just so rewarding for all of us. What are your personal highlights over your time mentoring disadvantaged kids? There are so many, to be honest, it’s hard to pick! I think one of the best things I can be involved in is seeing someone ride a bike on their own for the first time. It never gets old and we know that for them, the adventure is just about to start! Also seeing someone who has been involved in the juvenile justice system making a positive change and being released. For me, that’s a moment when I think “well, someone didn’t give up on that kid, and that might have been the only time that’s ever happened”. What’s coming up for Lighthouse? This year we started delivering our RIDE program in Tasmania, so for us working in another state is pretty exciting. We will also be doing a lot more Get Stoked! riding sessions across SA and TAS and that’s a great way we can connect and ride with more disadvantaged kids, hopefully spreading a positive message along the way. How can people get involved and help out with Lighthouse Youth Projects? As a volunteer driven organisation, the more hands on deck, the more opportunity we have to help as many kids as possible. We are always eager to hear from skilled professionals in their field who could have an integral role in helping us to help others. We encourage people to

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A Modern Day Dad’s Group!

Dads supporting dads If you were to walk into a pub and see a group of guys sitting at the bar, craft beer in hand, shooting the breeze and having a laugh, you could be forgiven for assuming they’re a footy team having end of season drinks, or old mates from Uni catching up. What might not spring to mind immediately, is that this group of blokes is actually a dad support group, chatting about fatherhood, life with young children, changing relationship roles and the highs and lows of supporting their partners through the early, hazy days of parenting and beyond. But, that’s exactly what happens every week at the Wheatsheaf, where a group of Adelaide dads have formed their own dads’ group; having regular catch-ups to connect with other fathers, discuss parenting issues, and learn from the experiences of other dads. Across the country, thousands of mums meet regularly for mothers’ group, many of us attributing our sanity through the long, nebulous days of early parenting to having a support network around us, of other women with a shared experience. In this day and age, men are more connected with family life, taking a more active and hands on role in parenting than ever before, but these types of networks are rarely geared toward fathers; dads who may be looking for similar avenues of support and the opportunity to swap notes and connect with others experiencing the same challenges. Meet James Age: 36 Occupation: Owner of Dirty Deeds Produce Marketing Kiddos: Paloma 3, Fleur 2 Loves: Surfing and drinking wine Husband to: Clare We chat with James, dadvocate and one of the founding members of local Adelaide Dad Support Group, about how having a support network of other fathers has affected his journey through parenthood. James encourages Adelaide dads to reach out to The Dad Support Group and come along, or check in with dad mates and find a time to get together and chat about all things fatherhood. How long has your dad group been meeting? The Dad Support Group has been around for a few years, some of the core members had kids nearly four years ago and caught up casually. The current iteration which includes new members, some first dads and soon-to-be dads, has been going a few months now. I think the regularity is a key aspect, it’s so easy to let dates and events slip past with kids because of competing schedules and the general madness of parenthood. What have been the benefits of creating the group? They’re bigger than I imagined. Men, typically like to interact side by side with a task to focus on. This gives us a bit of an ‘out’ when it comes to discussing anything of real depth. In this case, we come together with a single question or topic to discuss. It happens eventually, after a heap of chat about the usual (footy/life/work) and we often discuss a particular topic for an hour or more. It offers a platform to share, listen and discuss issues around being a Dad and a supportive partner. My kids are older than a lot of the fathers in the group and I think some of the biggest benefits have come to the guys who are new to being a parent, or about to become one. It’s great to pass some of this on, as this lived experience is so fresh for some of us. What are the main things that shocked you when you became a father? This was a topic of one of our chats actually! For me it’s happened slowly, but after having our second child I’d say how relentless parenting is. It’s very hard to find time for self-care and more structured opportunities are needed, otherwise you can really struggle. What information would you give to expecting dads? Not to listen to the Dads that feel it’s a rite of passage to freak them out with lazy comments like ‘what have you done?’ or ‘you’re in trouble now, mate’. I mean, I’ve said this stuff in moments of weakness but honestly, the advice I’d give is to be excited! Being a dad is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I’d also say be super supportive and present during the pregnancy and beyond; the experience you have after the arrival of your first bub won’t come again, it’s the best time to indulge in the journey. What do you think are the main pressures on modern dads? Firstly, I’d like to say the pressures on both parties has increased and I don’t want to discount the experience of the modern mother. Having said that, I think there’s a lot more expected of modern dads in relation to child rearing and tasks within the household. This obviously takes away from the things that dads traditionally did to wind-down and decompress. I really think that we need to talk more about dads; their mental health, pressures, expectations and opportunities for self-care. What is the best thing about being a dad? The other day my three-year-old said ‘when I grow up, I’m going to get a step dad’, I’m not sure if she knows something I don’t, but we had a good laugh. I’d say the best thing is that regardless of the day you’ve had, be it work or even challenges with the kids, it can all be washed away by a single moment of love or laughter provided by the little ones. My kids are at an age where I get lots of affection and they say some hilarious stuff daily. I’ve never laughed so much or dished out and received so many kisses. Have you come across any misconceptions about parenting? I guess that everyone’s experience is the same. Before parenthood I probably would’ve assumed it was a pretty uniform experience, but sleeping habits, health of children and parents, location and support from family really changes your experience. 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Meet The Local Adelaide Lady Turning Grief into Hope with Her Book ‘Born To Fly’

Local Adelaide lady, Tamara Whittaker, is using her grief and suffering after heartbreakingly losing her son at 5 and a half months gestation, to raise awareness and help others through the indescribable trauma and grief of loss. Tamara has proudly written, illustrated and printed Born To Fly, a beautifully and delicately written story that aims to offer comfort and explain the feelings that may be associated with the loss of a baby, or sibling. Tamara’s driving force behind writing the story and making it widely available was to provide hope and comfort, and ultimately strength through unity. By opening up the lines of communication and sharing the reality of loss, it alleviates the stigma and silence. Born To Fly is written through the eyes of a child and not only invokes a sense of comfort, hope and understanding for parents, but can also provide incredible comfort for siblings who have gone through the experience with their parents yet may not have the capabilities of processing their feelings. Children understand stories through pictures better than verbal explanations. A picture book is comforting and can offer insight and explanations in what can be a very confusing and confronting time for children, and by having a story read to them, it allows them to make sense of what’s happening, their feelings and digest the information through pictures. This beautiful book needs to be in the hands of everyone who has ever experienced the loss of a baby or child, or knows someone who has. Born to Fly is available online at tamaraj.com.au and in-store at Dymocks. @borntofly_picturebook

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Rebecca Morse: We’re going to Sri Lanka for the school holidays!

My travel agent friend is one of those who’d returned from a recent visit raving and when she suggested it to us we were weighing up our options for a July escape that was warm, wouldn’t blow the budget, and wasn’t Bali, since we’d already been lucky enough to sneak in a cheeky trip there earlier in the year. As for the question of safety after the Easter attacks, it is a sad reality of our world that no travel, domestic or international, is immune from risk. Not surprisingly though the crucial tourist industry has taken a big hit and we were greeted with warmth, gratitude and relief at every location. (Greet me with a cold towel and a tropical juice on check-in and I’m yours forever.) And security was super-tight. The trip was, however, not without incident. It was never going to be without incident, let’s be honest. My teen amateur astrologer reckons it was Mercury Retrograde. A three hour flight delay for me in the Gold Coast post-Logies saw us miss our plane to Colombo and spend a day in arctic Melbourne with a suitcase of summer clothes. Oh and we lost a child on a hike. And I accidentally exposed myself to a monk. We climbed spectacular Piduragala and on the descent the two eldest went ahead, Milla issuing the challenge that the last one down would be declared a rotten egg. The humidity was already wreaking havoc with my hair and I had strained a hammy underestimating the leaping distance between two boulders so I was in no position to take up her challenge. When we made it to the bottom she was nowhere to be seen. We concluded she must have become impatient and continued the rest of the journey to the car, despite this involving a walk through a temple. The rules of the temple dictated that women must cover bare skin and so my Lululemon bike shorts were hastily wrapped in a supplied sarong as I hurried down the stairs to solve the Mystery of the Missing Middle Child. So hastily wrapped in fact, that the piece of fabric would fall off and expose my legs just as a monk ascended towards me. I apologised profusely. Told him orange was his colour. Milla was not at the car. A mild panic began to set in as scenes from Picnic at Hanging Rock began to play out in my mind. “When was the last time you saw her?” I asked the eldest, who promptly burst into tears. (Granted she’s 16, she cries a lot) “Please don’t say that was the last time I saw her, ever” she sobbed, largely I suspect because we had now been out of wifi range for the best part of three hours. I found myself wondering how long local authorities would take to arrive to start a search party and whether it could be wrapped up in time for happy hour back at the hotel. No point searching in the dark. Her father doubled-back along the track and found her some ten minutes later after having taken a wrong turn. She was bemused by all the fuss that had been made. The highlights for the kids were the incredible wildlife encounters. We saw herds of wild elephants from an open-topped jeep, visited an orphanage where baby elephants were hand-fed milk and held three-day old turtles hatched in captivity before their release to protect them from animal and human predators. The highlights for me, much-needed downtime, days spent by the pool and on palm-fringed beaches. I read two books. I consumed exotic curries, cocktails and over-indulged on the breakfast buffet. We had conversations that didn’t just revolve around day-to-day logistics. And we implemented a new buddy rule on future hikes. Hit me up if you need any Sri Lanka travel tips, excluding monk etiquette. PLACES WE LOVED IN SRI LANKA Elephant Transit Home, Udawalawe Flying Ravana Mega Zipline, Ella Pidurangala Rock Elephant Safari, Minneriya National Park Victor Hasselblad Sea Turtle Research and Conservation Centre, Kosgoda Passikudah and Hiriketiya Beaches We flew Sri Lankan Airlines direct from Melbourne and booked through hollydaytravel.com.au @rebeccamorse10

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EMBRACE With Taryn Brumfitt

I don’t know about you, but it felt like only last night I was on the dance floor at The Planet, knocking back an illusion or three and busting out my best moves to M People. And then I blinked and here I am. 41 years old, mother of 3, with a mortgage and saying things like “it’s a good day to get the washing done”. How the heckle berry did this happen? Life, it moves so fast doesn’t it? I certainly don’t have an issue with getting older, I’m grateful for every precious minute I have on the planet but I do wish it would slow down just a little! In the past few years since learning to Embrace my body I’ve experienced more adventure and laughter than I did the first 30 years of my life. So, whilst life is speeding up, it’s also becoming more rich and abundant, joyful and fun. I’m not taking life for granted, I am squeezing out every last drop and I want to invite all of you to join me, because there’s plenty of room on the dance floor. In my experience of connecting and working with tens of thousands of women across the globe I know the number one reason that holds women back – the way they feel about their body. Hating your body, or wishing you had ‘her body’ or her {insert any body part} reeks havoc on your life, your happiness and the relationships you have with loved ones. What I want you to know is that it’s never too late to learn to embrace your body, I was 35 years old when I did and I’ve never looked back. But how you ask? Well, the answer is quite epic and more words than I can type on this page, but how about we start with a commitment from you to learn to embrace your body? Take a moment out of your day to consider how hating your body has impacted your life, your kid’s life, your partners life? What have you said no to that you wish you could of said yes to? What would it mean to let go of the negative self-talk and just dive in the ocean, do a bomb in the pool and make peace with the change-rooms? (What about leaving the lights on? Ok, ok, that’s the next level!) Each edition of KIDDO I am going to be bringing you some bodylovin’ inspiration, we can start this journey together. You weren’t born into the world hating your body, you learned this this, now let’s unlearn it whilst there’s still time! I’ve got you – lets do this! Remember the band Sheppard, say Geronimo, of course you do! This month I flew up to Brisbane to dance (badly) in their new lm clip “Kiss my Fat Ass”! This song is going to be such a rad anthem for women all over the world. Seek it out, you’ll love it! Introducing… Incredibly talented singer @tanerelle Last month she went braless on the red carpet at an Awards ceremony and was told she needed to “lift” her breasts? {What the beep??} What was supposed to be a joyous occasion turned into a shitstorm on social media after naysayers voiced their opinions on how they felt Tanerelle should have lifted her breasts or worn a less revealing dress. This is what Tanerelle had to say… “To all the negative comments about today’s look, I don’t need to lift my breast to wear a f*!&ing dress. I’m a woman and my natural tits hang and I f*!&ing love it and I have no intention of changing it to suit your gaze. I’m out here living my dreams, focus on better things.” YES SISTER, SLAY! Doing it for the kids One of the most frequently asked questions I get is “How do I help my child have a good relationship with their body?” This is my response… You are the Queen or King to your child, they see and hear everything you do, so the most impactful thing you can do to help your child foster a positive body image is model positive behaviour. That means not speaking negatively about your body in front of them, it means getting in the ocean, kicking the soccer ball on the beach in your bikini, it means faking it sometimes (it can be tempting to say something negative about your body in front of them – but just DON’T) and above all, the best thing you can do is show them how YOU enjoy your body. Move your body for pleasure and not punishment (don’t go for a walk / run because you ate the cake, move your body because it’s fun!) fuel your body with foods that give you energy, respect your body, show gratitude for your body, and don’t take it all too seriously. If you are on this planet worrying about some dimples on your butt or thighs, I reckon in terms of the human race you’re one of the lucky ones. X Download a song for your kids and change lives! As some of you know we are fundraising to make our next documentary- EmbraceKids. We’ve just released a body positive song for kids with all proceeds ($1.29) going to the film. Download it here (WARNING:Thesongisincrediblycatchy!!) There are many other ways to get involved with our life-changing work, head to bodyimagemovement.com for guilt free shopping (100% proceeds go to Embrace Kids) and make sure you watch Embrace the documentary – it’s a game changer! The best of our socials… FOLLOW @bodyimagemovement for a daily dose of love and inspiration!

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Hey Hayley: Q&A with mumma of three Hayley Berlingeri from @sweetlittlestory

HEY HEYLEY! I’m Hayley Berlingeri, Adelaide born and bred, mamma of three, and here I am just finding my way (AKA fumbling!!) through my days with my little ones, trying to be the best version of me that I possibly can be (which more often than not, results in me flopped out on the sofa at 10:34pm eating an entire packet of Mint Slice bickies, and thanking God that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it!) Before the babes came in to being, I poured my heart into my career as a Junior Primary teacher and JP Coordinating Principal, I travelled the world, near and far, and I solidly slept. But since then have given every waking minute to motherhood and all its mess, mayhem and marvel. Oh, and I love to share our stories in squares on our Insta page @sweetlittlestory xxx What’s the most valuable or important lesson your kids have taught you? It’s funny, I thought I’d be the one doing the teaching, but they have taught me so much. I learn from them on the daily. And it’s often things I never even knew I needed to know! They’ve taught me what it means to love, and to be loved, without expectation. They’ve taught me true patience (Ratbag Romeo, especially! Haha!) They’ve taught me what it feels like to be tired beyond belief but to want to push through that haze to be the best mother / wife / daughter / sister / friend I can be. But I think the most important thing is that they’ve taught me who I really am. They’ve shown me my purpose. They’ve enabled me to know what it means to have a ‘mother’s heart’. And, without sounding too clichè, I believe they’ve helped me find my true self. If it wasn’t for them, and becoming a mother, I wouldn’t have had my eyes opened to this new life, and my mindset transformed to see all the wonder and beauty in it. How do you know when you’re ready to start having children? Oh, God, is anyone ever ready??!! I know I wasn’t! In fact, my husband, Paolo was the one who forced me into it! He had lured me into the ‘lets make a baby’ chat a few times, and I’d always agreed, but then quickly reneged! I think because I loved my life so much, and I didn’t want any slippery little suckers coming along and upsetting the apple cart! But, as Paolo pointed out to me, I was getting a bit long in the tooth (nearly gouged his eyes out at that point! And don’t you just HATE that as gals, time is against us when it comes to having children?! That damn body clock of ours!!) and that maybe we’d better start trying for a baby soon, just in case we came across a few hurdles. Which, thankfully and gratefully, we didn’t. But nothing, literally NOTHING (!!!) can prepare you for that first baby and all that comes with it. No matter how many details your own mum tells you. No matter how many friends describe it. No matter how many books you’ve read, or babies you’ve held, NOTHING can REALLY prepare you. The complete and utter life change. The long and lonely nights. The unbelievable tiredness that follows you around in a foggy haze for months on end. The worry / stress / anxiety over every teensy detail (OMG she only fed on my boob for 14 minutes instead of 15! Will she survive????!!! …yes, I was that crazy!!). And the love. Oh, the love!!! A love like you’ve never known before. So pure. So true. So strong that you feel your heart might just pop at any moment. Nothing on earth can prepare you for that love. Got a question about life, motherhood or eating chocolate biscuits… I’ll give you an answer! @sweetlittlestory

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Rebecca Morse: This is NOT a Pinterest Party

You know those parents who throw a Pinterest-worthy kid’s party? With arts and crafts, a grazing table, pass-the-parcel with a gift for every child wrapped in each layer, a homemade rainbow cake and a personalised party bag. I am not one of those parents. But, determined that my children not be punished for their mother’s party planning deficiencies I have, over the years, dipped my toe in the at-home party genre, with varying degrees of disaster. One year I decided I would need a big ticket item to distract guests from my hosting shortcomings, like an ice sculpture in the shape of Ana and Elsa. I settled on an inflatable waterslide for the backyard, telling invitees to pack their bathers for a “special surprise”. The Inflatable Water Slide Delivery Guy rocks up in his truck first thing on the morning of the party, shakes his head and says there’s no way he can fit the thing through our side gate. Cue the tears. And also from the birthday girl. So the “special surprise” for our junior party guests was a Slip and Slide dug out of the garage, a garden hose and a bottle of Morning Fresh. Oh, and a balloon animal guy I have in my contacts. It’s a long story. The kids loved it. And the parents had a good chuckle about what happens when Bec tries to entertain at home. So for the next party on the family calendar I played to my strengths and went off premise for a Build-a-Bear party. Which, as the name suggests, is a party during which invited guests build a bear at considerable expense. But what could possibly go wrong in such a controlled environment I hear you ask? I even brought along cupcakes (purchased, not home-baked, of course) so we could stick a candle in one and sing to the birthday girl and the bear that she had built. I was feeling quite smug about my success until my sister mentioned on departure that she had put out a fire for me. I assumed she meant there had been some sort of quarrel over a bear footy guernsey that she had hosed down. But no, the sensible one in the family had extinguished an actual fire. In my handbag. Where I had dropped a match that was still burning after lighting five candles. Slow clap for me. Then there was the sleepover where the middle child declared, after being unable to sleep because her guests were “breathing too loudly”, that she was enduring THE WORST NIGHT OF HER LIFE. Not to mention the slime party that saw us scraping glittery chunks off soft furnishings for the next six months. I suspect you’re either born with the party planning gene or you’re not and not even a vintage copy of the Women’s Weekly Children’s Birthday Cake Book can change the course of your destiny. I am in awe of the parents who carry off a successful party at home. One party for a set of twins springs to mind. We arrived at said party the customary 20 minutes late because I’d stopped on the way to get a present. I was quick to spot a party activity schedule written on the kitchen whiteboard and when I marvelled at it the mother sheepishly said she should have wiped it off before the guests arrived. Are you kidding me? I replied enviously, this is exactly what I need to employ at my next party. My Whiteboard of Guaranteed Party Success would contain the following checklist: Check that entertainment centrepiece of entire party will fit in backyard. Try not to incinerate party venue. Never, ever host a sleepover. Supply wine to distract parents from lack of party-hosting skills. @rebeccamorse10 [/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]

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Embrace yourselves: Taryn Brumfitt is paving the road to body positivity

Embrace yourselves: Taryn Brumfitt is paving the road to body positivity When Adelaide mother of three, Taryn Brumfitt, posted what was a somewhat unconventional before and after photo of herself on her Facebook page, she could never have predicted it was going to reverberate across social media the world over. In the composite, Taryn showcased what she believed, at one time, had the potential to be her perfect bikini body. On stage in her pinnacle moment of glory, after intensive dieting, training and restriction, confidently competing in a body building competition she was inspired to enter as motivation to help lose the post baby kilos. This image was juxtaposed with her more voluptuous, ‘after’ shot; a happier, fuller and most importantly, more fulfilled version of herself, that she had chosen to embrace, after throwing away the scales in favour of learning to love and accept her body. Since then, Taryn has continued the body positive conversation she started that night when her image went viral globally, by undertaking an international crusade; rallying against the media, advertising, the weight loss industry and overarching societal ideologies of what a woman’s body “should” look like. What started as an individual wanting to spark a change in thinking, has gone on to become a global Body Image Movement. Having authored two books and directed and starred in the inspiring and important social change documentary Embrace, Taryn is at the forefront of empowering women and men to make peace with their bodies, and is now setting her sights on helping the most impressionable in our lives, our children, to interrupt the cycle of body hating before it begins. We chat with Taryn about her body confidence journey, learning to embrace yourself, and what’s next for The Body Image Movement. When did your journey towards body positivity begin? The moment I stepped onto the body building stage, arriving in what was my desired bikini body, I just remember thinking “I can’t do this for the rest of my life”. At the pinnacle of embracing what I thought was my perfect body, I just thought “oh gosh no, this is just too hard and takes too much time and sacrifice and energy”. I decided I was going to go out and use my body for pleasure and not punish it, and learn to find joy in food again, rather than just worrying about how many calories something has. How did you learn to embrace your own body? It’s really important to know that it won’t happen overnight, you can’t just flick a switch and love your body. But you can, in any given moment, make the choice to learn to embrace. I think the key word here is learn. You really have to educate yourself and spend time unpacking the old stories, educating yourself as to why you hate your body and then seek out information, whether in the form of documentaries, books, websites or people who are positive about their body image, and just head up that road of learning to embrace. What inspired you to turn this exploration of body image into a documentary? There are two reasons. The first being the 7000+ emails I received after posting my before and after body transformation image on Facebook. Emails from people all around the world talking about their body satisfaction, very heartbreaking stories. That was certainly the motivation, I knew I had uncovered something we weren’t talking about in 2014, like we are now in 2019. I felt a responsibility to do something with all of those stories. The second reason was through frustration with media interviews. They’re 4-minute-long TV segments, and because my photograph went so viral, they were really about being a viral sensation as opposed to respecting the subject and depth that sat behind that photograph. I just wanted the subject of body image to be taken more seriously than it was, and the only way to do that was to do it on my own terms and be independent. That’s when I came up with the idea to make the film. How has the body image movement journey transformed your life personally? The whole journey from the original photograph, to the books, to the film, has transformed my life in so many ways. I still live in and love Adelaide, so that hasn’t changed. I travel a lot, to various parts of the world to spread this message. The whole journey of learning to love my body has propelled me outside my comfort zone to do things that I never thought possible. I think that truly is the difference between not loving your body and loving your body. There’s such power in finding that confidence, self-love and self-respect. That’s what I want for every woman and mother, to find that magic inside of themselves, because we are capable of so much more than we know, and we are living in a day and age where it’s time that women rise up, stand up and use their voices. It’s really hard to do that when we’re still standing around the water cooler at work talking about our cellulite or the latest diet plans. What have you come across that has surprised you about body image / confidence issues universally? I think I was surprised that no matter where I travelled, across different walks of people and cultures, women felt the same. Women across the planet are struggling with their bodies. It might be different nuances in different countries, but there are always challenges. No matter where I went, the stories were still the same, women were hating their bodies. What do you hope people following the body image movement journey will take away from it? It’s not the sole purpose of their life to be at war with their body, that’s not what we’re here to do. A few months ago, I was walking through Perth Children’s Hospital and I saw all these sick children and I was looking at them thinking

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Mum Words With Liv Williams

On a scale of one to Marie Kondo, my life ranks about a Fyre Festival right now. All I have to eat is a cheese sandwich, I’ve spent all my money, Blink 182 is nowhere to be found, and I’m about to burn all of my possessions and throw myself in the bin. Hectic. But here we are, summer is of officially over, the Adelaide Festival season is finito for another year, and there is literally nothing left to do but scroll through the Netflix menu for hours reading the descriptions of countless movies you’ll never watch. Ahhh, but that’s where I come in… LISTEN: Shameless the podcast Shameless brands itself as the podcast for “smart women who love dumb stuff”. Which is basically the leading statement in my resume, so I’m here for it. Writers Zara McDonald and Michelle Andrews are basically living my dream life each Monday, as they recap the week that was in the celebrity and pop culture space, but they do it in a much more intelligent way than I probably would, which is possibly why they have a podcast that’s been downloaded over a million times and I own house plants. They’re quirky and funny, make intelligent observations about trashy news in a fun way and prove that smart people love Married at First Sight and The Bachelor too, thank you very much. Never miss a Monday! Shameless podcast available from the App store WATCH: Dirty John Based on the true crime podcast of the same name, the Netflix original series Dirty John still scared the bejesus out of me, even though I had listened to the podcast and knew exactly what was coming. Maybe it’s because Eric Bana has an incredible jawline, 2% body fat and is forking terrifying. Bana plays sociopath and con man John Meehan, who embarks on what appears to be a dream romance with wealthy interior designer and four-time divorcee Debra Newell, after meeting online. It’s hardly a spoiler to say that all is clearly not as it seems, with Meehan, who routinely preys on vulnerable women in a bid to extort them for money, turning Newell’s dream romance into a living nightmare. You don’t have to have listened to the podcast to binge this chilling eight-part series, in fact it might well be better if you haven’t. netflix.com DO: Have burgers at Betty’s What can I say? I like big buns and I cannot lie. I want to mention straight off the bat, that Betty’s Burgers have not paid me in a lifetime supply of Burgers for writing this, but if they would like to, I graciously accept. This place is ALL THE THINGS. I was a Betty’s fan prior to the opening of their Adelaide store, from holidays gone by in Noosa, where their flagship store was founded. Naturally, on discovering the plan to open a Betty’s here, I basically camped out on the footpath in Rundle Street and aggressively heckled the construction crew periodically in an effort to speed up the process. I can’t say for sure that it moved forward the grand opening but also, you’re welcome. The atmosphere at Betty’s is relaxed, the service is fast and friendly, and the burgers are the best in town. Don’t be dismayed if there’s a queue out the front, they have an efficient system (I like to think of it as some kind of saucery… ba dum bum CH) of working through it and they still manage to get people seated and served quickly regardless. Happy days are made at Betty’s Burgers, so give it a try! Betty’s Burgers & Concrete Co. 211/215 Rundle St, Adelaide @eeniemeeniemineymum

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Simone Lettice’s Solo Exhibition ‘Grit’ is Coming to Smart Art Gallery

Simone Lettice Exhibition at Smart Art Gallery Adelaide based visual artist Simone Lettice is gearing up for her latest solo exhibition ‘Grit’ – her bravest and largest collection to date – at Smart Art Gallery. KIDDO caught up with her to chat about her tenacious dedication to her art, her ongoing battle with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and the demands of mothering a toddler… How did you get into painting? I always loved to draw throughout my childhood and started up a handmade greeting card business featuring my drawings in my mid teens. Studying graphic design in my later teens, I didn’t really start painting till my early twenties. A pivotal moment about this time occurred when a friend of mine, looking at a small journal filled with my drawings said, “Simone you need to start doing things you don’t need to squint at!”. Not long after, my boyfriend now husband, provided me with some big primed boards and I went to work creating my first exhibition. Painting quickly took over as my favourite medium. Funny how what was essentially a passing comment spurred me on to change artistic direction. How would you describe your artwork? I can definitely see influences in my work from both the artwork I was surrounded by as a child (family of artists) and the art books I was shown (books on Miro, Matisse and Picasso). It was my grandmother in particular, who really fostered a love of art in me. Encouraging me to paint what I feel, she taught me to use quick expressive markings. To this day my paintings show her influence – my initial sketchings are done quickly and intuitively to create the framework for bold, sculptural abstracts or stylised figurative pieces. Fave thing to paint? I love the boundless freedom abstractionism offers me to be unrestrainedly creative. Painting ‘grit’ has been my favourite painting experience ever! Coming from a more mature, authentic place, I’ve created paintings I would like to hang in my own home. People often look at my paintings and comment on the time they must have taken and remark that I must be very patient. I enjoy the slow, repetitive process, it’s peaceful and meditative. How do you manage and balance mum hat v painter hat? I have become more efficient since having my daughter and more adept at harnessing my creativity and inspiration, ‘turning the tap on’ when I have a window of time, rather than just waiting for inspiration to visit. Even so, I wouldn’t be able to ‘manage’ without the support of my husband, family, friends and a lovely lady that helps out with cleaning once a fortnight. How did you pull together an exhibition [and alll those paintings!] with a toddler + Chronic Fatigue Syndrome? This exhibition has been a labour of love and has taken me longer to produce than I like to admit! Some of the smaller paintings were literally done with my daughter asleep in my arms. Generally, I’ve picked up my paintbrush in stolen moments or when, because family and friends have looked after my daughter or done jobs around the house, I’ve been left with extra time (and energy) to put into painting. It’s been a slow process and at times I’ve felt like this exhibition would never happen. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome can be extremely debilitating (I’ve been left bedridden for years at a time in the past) and its so easy to physically crash if you push yourself too hard. I’ve had to really pace myself to produce this collection. Beyond that it’s been patience, grit, determination and a deep love for creating that have propelled me along when it all felt beyond me. Tell us about your exhibition coming up at Smart Art… I’ve titled the collection ‘grit’ as a nod to the determination required of me to compile it. A collection of 36 abstract paintings ranging from postcard size to 1200 x 1200 canvases, these paintings, all bold sculptural acrylics, were created using layers of carefully and slowly applied paint, or dots using a tiny paintbrush. Gold’s, bronzes, greys and black, with the odd splash of a feature colour were my palette of choice for these pieces. I drew inspiration from constellations, music, collage and bronzed sculptures, but ultimately it was my feeling-based, intuitive process that led me to produce works that I hope my audience will likewise discover their own meanings within. Grit opens May 31st at Smart Art Gallery, 93 North Tce, College Park and will be showing through till the end of July. @simoneletticeart

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Emma Sadie Thomson: A Natural Transition

Emma Sadie Thomson is a plant stylist who has firmly imprinted her very talented green thumb around Adelaide, she has created some of the very enviable installations you would have seen around the city. Her beautiful Instagram account highlights her talents and way with plants and provides you with all the green inspiration you could possibly need – and will make you want to do a bathroom renovation when you lay your eyes on her oh-so-dreamy bath, just saying. bath, just saying. Emma has recently become a new mum, to gorgeous little Frances, and we sat down to discuss all things plants and babies, and the synergy between the two. What is the greatest lesson you’ve learnt since becoming a mother, did expectations meet reality? Be kind to yourself and don’t expect to get too much done during the first few weeks. Enjoy the days where you might not get out of your pj’s! I think I underestimated just how little I could get done with a newborn; you are on their time now. But, it is also such a precious time during those first few weeks, so enjoy it as it will be gone in the blink of an eye, I can’t believe she is 10 weeks old already. You have had a very interesting career, beginning in interior and fashion and then pivoting into plants. Can you tell us a little bit about your journey and how you arrived at EST? I studied Landscape Architecture at University and then spent some time travelling. Upon returning I wasn’t ready to go back to landscape architecture, and I got a job in the fashion industry, working in set design, VM and then interior design. EST started when I began making and selling terrariums at various markets, then I got asked to help with the redesign of a beer garden featuring a large green wall, which was my first major project. This just lead to other projects and EST naturally evolved. I always wanted to combine interior design and my love for plants and found this was a great way to do it! Where did your passion for ora and fauna stem from? Growing up in rural Mallee Victoria, as a child I was always surrounded by nature and the importance of having a connection to it. Do you feel it’s important to immerse children in nature from a young age? It is so important. I remember always playing outside as a child, out in the dirt making mud pies. I think babies and kids have a natural desire to be outside in nature and getting dirty. Playing in the dirt can also help with training and strengthening their immune systems. Studies have shown that it can help with the proper formation of healthy gut bacteria and by restoring this beneficial bacteria it can help with reduced rates of allergies and boost immune systems. Being outdoors can also help with developing their cognitive skills. If we are having trouble settling Frances we take her out for a walk and she loves to stare up at the sky and the trees. Have you notices a synergy between caring for plants and babies? Both need nurturing and both will give you signs to let you know they aren’t happy. You bring this baby into the world and it is 100% reliant on you looking after it. I think its similar to you bringing a plant into your home, you are now its carer. Who have been the biggest female influences in your life? I have always been surrounded by such amazing women. My mum, grandma and two sisters. Also, nearly all of my close friends have built their own paths and careers working for themselves, which has been inspiring and they have all been a great support to me. What does a typical day juggling motherhood / work look like for you? It really does vary each day! I feel so lucky to be able to work from home and my partner Jasper also works from home, so he is never too far away. It has been a very busy few weeks though as we have just finished vintage up here, but now all of the grapes are picked we are looking forward to having some quieter family time. She usually wakes up around 5 or 6am, feed then back to sleep for a few more hours. This is the time we try and get some work done, washing, cleaning and cooking (so much washing). The afternoons are then usually spent going for a walk and more play time for her as she is much more awake in the afternoons. What advice would you give to a new mum? Support is so important, especially in the first few weeks. We came home from the hospital on the same day, but went to my parents house where we all spent the first week. It was such a big help having my mum to help with settling her after feeding, so I could get some much needed sleep. It’s a whirlwind and you don’t know what you’re doing, so it was so important to have some help! It really does take a village to raise a child. Best indoor plants to have with a newborn / child in the house? I guess nothing too spiky! I keep looking around the house and now see things as hazards that will need to be removed when she starts crawling, such as pot stands! Everything will have to be on the ground in a few months! What inspires your creative process? We get to work with some really great interior designers and architects on projects which is always inspiring to come up with plant installations to suit these spaces. Adding elements of different heights and clusters of planting are important in our plant styling. Light is also a big factor that dictates what kind of plants we can use in the space as well. From your experience,

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Life With Love: Teresa Palmer and Christiane Duigan

Christiane Duigan and Teresa Palmer are goals in every sense of the word; mama goals, friendship goals, entrepreneur goals, wellness goals. These two beautiful ladies are earth mamas, friends and now business partners as they prepare to launch L O V E W E L L; their wellness brand that they have poured so much love and hard work into, behind the scenes, for the past year. Their synergy is evident and their passion infectious. What I love most, is that with both of them, what you see is what you get. They are two of the sweetest, softest, kindest, nurturing humans on the face of the earth and watching them as mamas is watching poetry in motion. And they practice what they preach, truly living healthy, whole, plentiful lives reflecting their ethos that health and wellness begins from within. Adelaide born and bred, both ladies have spent considerable time away building their careers and families – Christiane in Sydney and London and Teresa in Los Angeles, but now they each split their time with the majority of it in Adelaide, which will always be home. Raising their gorgeous tribe of children, it is evident that family comes first, and wellness is a priority for their families. Being the epitome of wellness, their philosophy is healing from the earth and we are so excited that they are sharing their knowledge and expertise with the launch of L O V E W E L L (coming in May); their plant based, natural, nutrient dense, delicious, fair trade supplements for both mama (and dadas!); BLOSSOM and child; GROW. Their products will be available at a very accessible price point, without comprising quality (insert hands in the air emoji here!), they’ve had the tick of approval from their little loves and their hilarious husbands (check out their rap on Instagram to see what I’m talking about!) are without a doubt their biggest fans. And, a after getting to have a sneaky little taste – I can tell you firsthand that you’re about to become obsessed, I’ve never tasted a protein / nutrient powder like it, it’s seriously delish and so good simply mixed with water – and when combined with your favourite ingredients into a smoothie, it will blow your mind and your tastebuds. Their website – launching soon – is a mecca of wellness, so head on over to lovewell.earth (yes, .EARTH not .COM – how cool is that) and sign up to be the first in the know when pre-orders are open and products are dropping; they are starting with a limited run so take my word for it – you really don’t want to miss out. And follow them on Instagram (@lovewell.earth) for all the behind-the-scenes goodness, wellness information, product insight… and let’s be honest, alllllll the cuteness from their little tribe. What do you love most about being a mum and how has it changed you? CD: From a very young age, I always knew my life purpose was to be a mum. I had no career goals as such, it was always to be a mum. So for a while I worked as a nanny, babysat and worked at an after school care with kids to surround myself and practice and for me, being a mum has been the most fulfilling thing in my life and is what makes me the happiest. TP: Pretty much the same! I feel the same way, I’ve always had such a strong pull towards motherhood and anyone who knows me well knows that my greatest desire was to be a mother. What I love most about it? It’s really hard to pinpoint any one thing but just nurturing these beautiful little souls and watching them blossom into the people that they are and creating the space for them to explore their world and their environment and grow into the little spirits that they are. Everything in my life is richer because I am a mother. It’s my greatest joy and as Mark says, I’m addicted to having babies so I may end up as a mum to an entire tribe of children but that would make me incredibly happy. CD: It has changed my lifestyle, nothing does prepare you for the shock of having kids and multiple children because it does change your priorities and what you want for life. My perfect dream day pre-kids was very different to now, now it’s about the simple things. Now it’s spending time with the kids, doing family things with friends, having all the kids running around while we’re in the sunshine at the beach, it has changed priorities. What is your approach to motherhood and parenting? CD: I very much learnt along the way and tried to figure it out by making mistakes, until I got tired of yelling at my kids all the time, I didn’t like the person I became because it was a constant argument and that’s when I turned to a lot of parenting podcasts and books to find a more respectful way of parenting to get better results by tweaking simple things such as language and understanding the psychology of the kids and why they do what they do. It allows you to make a more calm, informed response rather than a heated reaction to a situation. TP: I’m pretty chilled and laid back, I definitely have gentle boundaries in place with the kids but I’m one of those parents that is go with the flow, not regimented. I don’t have a specific routine, I meet their needs when the need arises each day. Every day might look a little bit different and that’s ok. We try to have a lot of fun and laughter and we’re always adventuring but I really try not to put a huge amount of pressure on myself to get everything done the right way, we’re on this journey together. The greatest lesson your kids have taught you? CD: Patience. TP: I second that haha. CD: And just love, the purest form of unconditional love and joy. TP: I completely

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Rebecca Morse: Forgive me if I forget your name… or mine

We’re all familiar with the condition of Baby Brain. That prenatal fog that sees you leave your car keys in the Tupperware drawer and walk into rooms with great urgency only to wonder what indeed you are doing there and what it used to feel like to be a fully functioning member of society. I’m sorry to break it to you, but there is an equally-debilitating condition which I have recently self-diagnosed. Working Mum Brain. The symptoms can strike without warning and are usually triggered when one is pressured to recall specific and detailed information quickly and coherently. Information pertaining to one’s beloved offspring, for example. I met a parent who was new to the school at a kid’s birthday party in recent weeks and, as parental small talk dictates, we inquired about each other’s children. Just basic stuff, you know, food allergies, names, year levels, teachers and the like. I got through the first child with flying colours, no hesitation, managing to pass myself off as a committed and engaged mother and member of the school community. Then, a mental blank when I got to the classroom specifics of the middle child. 5S I said, with confidence. I should have left it at that. Grabbed a lolly bag and made a quick exit. Instead I said “Mrs….” and trailed off unconvincingly. Fool! I was dealing with a new mother unfamiliar with the faculty staff. I could have saved myself. Gone with Mrs Smith, Mrs Schnitzel or Mrs Snodgrass, she would have been none the wiser. For at least another term or two. By which time her child may have moved into another friendship group. But Working Mother Brain is insidious, it not only robs you of your memory, it robs you of your powers of quick thinking. And so it was that I was forced to admit that I had forgotten my child’s teacher’s name. The shame of it. Until the second I shut the car door and it returned immediately to my brain in a rare moment of clarity. Sleep deprivation caused by the 4am breakfast radio alarm is not helping. After an interview in the Hit107 studio with Port Adelaide player Brad Ebert I farewelled him. “Say hi to Brad for me!” Seeing his look of confusion, I replayed my words in my head. “I mean Bec, your wife, Bec.” Lucky she has the same name as me or that too may have disappeared into my mind’s abyss. Funny then that a brain, so empty when it’s required to draw on the conversational building blocks required for basic human interaction, can be so busy and full when one would like it to be blank. For example when one is trying to get some essential and precious sleep. It is at this time that the mind goes to work. When is school photo day? What should I get Dad for his birthday? How many text /email / DMs did I forget to reply to today? Can I justify new activewear? Are the children eating enough vegetables? Am I eating enough vegetables? If I fall asleep now how many hours sleep will I get? If I don’t fall asleep now how will I get through tomorrow / the week / the rest of my life? It is little wonder that our brains are so utterly fatigued. Can we reverse this process? I imagine living a simpler life would help. But I’m not travelling down a quiet path right now, I’ve chosen a multi-lane highway. So I apologise in advance if I forget your name, or mine. This is what 24 hours looks like! 4:20am Alarm Quick check of the socials to see if anything big has happened overnight. Get dressed in whatever was last discarded on the oor, brush teeth, apply tinted moisturiser. Make coffee to drink in the car. 4:40am Leave for Hit107 5:00am Production meeting and pre-show preps. 6:00 – 9:00am Bec & Cosi show on air. Another coffee in here somewhere. 9:00 – 10:00am Post-show and planning meetings. Cosi and I compete over who was funniest. 10:00am – 11:30am ME TIME! (Activities may include nap, exercise, catch up with friends, appointments, life admin) 11:30am – 6:00pm Present updates and news bulletin at 10. Another coffee in here somewhere. 6:30pm HOME! Smother children with unwanted attention. Dinner and a cheeky glass of wine. 8:30pm Put kids to bed 8:30-9:30pm Attempt to keep up with a TV series with husband. 9:30pm Put myself to bed.

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MumKIND: Small Things Done With Great Love

Small Things Done With Great Love As mums, we can all appreciate that motherhood is a huge responsibility. All consuming. Life affirming. Miraculous. But also, at times, gruelling. Imagine for a moment, that you were trying to fulfill this mammoth responsibility, one of life’s biggest challenges, without a support network, or even a safe environment for your family to call home. That’s what founder of MumKIND, Kate Earl, had in mind when she established the South Australian volunteer-run charity which aims to show kindness to women who are facing adverse circumstances, including homelessness, unemployment, domestic abuse and/or poverty, while also raising children. Forming partnerships with social service agencies across South Australia, MumKIND aims to do small things with great love, demonstrating care and compassion for families across the state, who are in desperate need of support. We chat with Kate about MumKIND and how the charity is supporting South Australian women and children. Tell us about MumKIND and what your inspiration was for founding the charity? It really started from experiences of motherhood. My first child, William, was a dream. I thought it was challenging at the time of course, but looking back he was an easy-going baby and it was easy for me to enjoy him. Number two, Charlie, came along and it was a wakeup call for me. He was beautiful and I adored him wholeheartedly, but he just didn’t sleep. So I didn’t sleep. William was a toddler and he too was up several times a night; my husband was often away for work and life was large to say the least. Overnight I would bounce from room to room tending to the boys. I was denied any quality sleep and for the first time in my life I experienced true stress. One particular night when I was really struggling, I thought it couldn’t get more intense than it was – surely. I had to dig deep that night and push through – that’s what mothers do. For me I focused on the positives in the situation, and there were so many; two healthy, beautiful children, a solid roof over my head, my husband who is the nicest man I know and all the support I needed. It was easy for me to count my blessings and I took strength from them all. Looking back, I can see how I was able to find so much strength at a time when I was so exhausted and overwhelmed, and it’s really because of my parents’ influence throughout my upbringing and to this day…. As a family, we believe in the power of our relationships and in positivity – that’s a pretty great combination, it gives you great strength when you need it. As I counted my own blessings and felt the gratitude of this, I then turned my thoughts to the millions of women navigating motherhood, but who didn’t perhaps have the support that I had. No roof over their head, not such a caring partner, generational poverty, long-term unemployment, perhaps not knowing where their next meal was coming from. I never intended to wake up and start a charity, but I was compelled to do something meaningful. And if you’ve ever done a random act of kindness for someone, you’ll know – it’s the most empowering feeling, especially when you can inspire others to do the same. And that’s where it started. How did you turn your thoughts from that night into the reality of MumKIND? I reached out to my girlfriends and simply said “let’s do something good for women. Let’s support Mother’s who are raising children without the basic necessities and without anything or anyone to support them. Let’s do something great for the world”. The number of useful and beautiful items that the girls delivered was incredible. I’d come home every day and my veranda was just lined with items for donation. This made me realise how inspired we all were and how we were bonding over this experience of being able to give to these beautiful children and their mothers who needed help. One thing led to another and ve years later we’re a registered charity achieving pretty great outcomes. “I founded MumKIND to achieve something truly good in my own life, something that’s bigger than me or anything else that I’m doing. Something that can help to make the world a better place and luckily for me, my incredible friends join me and help drive MumKIND every day. We’ll never meet the women we support but together, we are making a difference. We’re surrounded by incredible women with shared values and a shared vision and we’re all growing closer by the day because of it- we’re making an impact on the world.” Tell us about some of your campaigns, how are you helping Adelaide mothers and families? We focus on families – women with children. We base everything that we do on supporting these families with some fundamental, practical things but also, some feel good items too. One of our first campaigns asked people to go through their library of books and pass them on to mums and children in need. I thought we’d get 200-300 books; but thousands of books came in. The layers of benefit that a book brings to a family was an easy story to tell – it resonates with everybody. I loved what my husband said, that “a child who may never have owned a book before might receive one of these books, and learn and be inspired and could go on to discover a cure for cancer – they’re being given a better chance to learn and grow and to be inspired about their future. “Signi cant Smalls” is another campaign we ran in 2018 – it was all about collecting bras and underwear for women and children. We want to give these women things that provide practical assistance but also things that they want, that make them feel good about themselves, to reclaim their identity

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