How music can help your child regulate their emotions

A young girl wearing headphones smiles against a bright yellow background.
Regulation is a bit of a buzzword in parenting and therapy circles, but what does it really mean? In simple terms, it’s your child’s ability to manage and respond to their emotions and surroundings. One surprisingly powerful tool for supporting regulation? Music.

By Joey Leong, Spot Paediatrics

Joey Leong, Spot PaediatricsMusic has the incredible ability to trigger the release of “feel-good” brain chemicals like dopamine (motivation and learning), serotonin (mood and sleep), and oxytocin (bonding and love). It’s why singing to your baby or dancing around the lounge room can feel like magic, because, in a way, it is.

Music provides rhythm, structure and familiarity, all things that help children feel safe and regulated. Different elements of music can influence your child’s sensory and emotional world in distinct ways:

Rhythm & beat – Predictable rhythms can organise the nervous system. Play steady-beat songs during transitions or when calming down after a big emotion.

Volume – Gentle, soft music can soothe. Too loud? It might overstimulate. Tune into your child’s sensory preferences.

Tempo – Need energy? Go upbeat. Winding down? Choose slower tempos to help ease into quiet time or focus.

Familiar lyrics – Well-known songs offer comfort and predictability. Use the same song for brushing teeth or getting ready for bed to turn routine into rhythm.

Live music & singing – Singing together promotes bonding, co-regulation, and joy. Your voice becomes a powerful tool for connection

Every child is different, so it’s worth observing how your little one responds. Some thrive on upbeat pop; others melt into calm with acoustic melodies. The key? Let music become part of your parenting toolkit. It’s accessible, joyful, and powerfully regulating.

For more support in using music and other strategies to help your child thrive:

Spot Paediatrics

Level 1/360 Brighton Rd, Hove
08 7228 6825
spotpaediatrics.com.au
@spotpaediatrics

 

 

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